There can be many reasons for being an addict and various ways that the addict feels the need to get the treatment. But there is one thing that always remains the same in the equation, and that is the enabler.
The enabler can be anyone in the family or the loved one around the addict. You must know that enabler can be the kryptonite for the addict and can make things worse.
Enabler might think that he or she is protecting the addict, and eventually, things will be alright. This thinking makes them protect the addict and deny the facts that are in front of them. But an enabler can also play a vital role to get them into the treatment process, as they hold an essential place in an addict’s life and their opinion matters.
There is various sign that you are an enabler:
• Ignoring shifty behaviour
There will be multiple changes in the practice of an addict like:
• Coming late at home
• Aggressive behaviour
• Losing jobs quickly
These are some of the frequent changes you will notice like an addict, and even now you are ignoring the signs then you are an enabler.
• Resentment of the Addiction
Sometimes people try to ignore the addict and do not also talk to them. They start forming a type of jealousy towards them. This behaviour is known as the self-fulfilling prophecy. In this behaviour, you try to ignore the addict and think that everything is going to be alright, but this not the case. You have to take action towards the addict.
• Blaming the situation and others for the Addict’s Action
When a person becomes an addict, addiction affects the addict physically and mentally. These after-effects make the addicts do thing the wrong way, start to cause problems, withdrawn behaviour, mood changes.
Even after these problems, the enabler tries to ignore the facts and try to blame it on other for the mistakes. They also try to blame the situation or the friend circle an addict has. This may be happening because they are afraid of losing them, or deeper-rooted issue. There is a chance you might find an enabler in the family or friend but is not able to point it out on their own at this time you can call an interventionist.
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• Covering up an Addict
An addict cannot stay without drug or alcohol for a long period. After some time, he or she will try to escape from the house or an office to get “high”. When this happens, and you try to cover up for that person, then you are an enabler. You have to understand that you are not helping him or her; rather, you are helping him or her to move toward addiction or worse condition.
• Letting fear run you
Fear can make even good people do bad things. Enablers are no exception from it. The people who try to cover up or blame others for the addiction, they are doing it in fear of losing an addict to the rehabilitation centre or the conflict.
Intentionally they do not want to hurt the addict, but their behaviour (due to fear) is harming them.
• Providing money
When you are giving money to the addict, even though you know that he or she is going to spend that money to get “high”. You think that there is no way to approach the addict and talk about addiction. Instead, help them as the enabler.
Are you an Enabler?
If you are showing any of the above signs, then you are an enabler, and you have to change it. This behaviour is not helping the addict or you. If you think that it is too late to get help, then you are wrong, it’s never too late.
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